It seems that most of the time the fights in a couple end the same way, it seems that we engage in the same type of fight, it seems that we make the same mistakes. And what’s worse is that we’re not really fighting with our partner, but we’re reactivating childhood traumas, those situations where our needs for love, attachment, validation were not met. We take an old and familiar road… we’ve beaten it, we know it, and it’s easier for us to go through it again. Isn’t love that very rarely used road?
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