Back to the sand pit Two children were playing together, with buckets and shovels, at the sandpit. Suddenly, a heated argument broke out between them, and one of the children ran away, screaming “I hate you, I hate you!” But almost immediately the two returned to the sandpit, playing...

If we look closely, the most heated arguments in a relationship are not about dirty dishes, forgotten phones, or who made the first mistake. Behind them lie much deeper needs: the desire to be seen and accepted for who you are, the fear of being abandoned, the need to...

As most likely couple therapists have already discovered, doing couple therapy is not simple at all – neither for the couple in question nor for the therapist. It takes a lot of balance, it’s like being a dance instructor. Difficult if the enthusiasts don’t have a certain sense of...